One thing for sure about caregiving - besides
learning new skills that you never dreamed you would have to learn, you can also grow a beautiful sense of purpose and meaningfulness in life.
Take a moment and think about that...you learn to take care of someone and do things for that person that you may otherwise never have had the opportunity to do! Your relationship with that person takes on a whole new meaning.
Yes, some of the things or tasks that must be done are not always fun - life isn't always fun and we all must do some things that we don't necessarily enjoy.
Like life, caregiving and our role in it changes; in fact, change is the constant. So then, what happens to you with such a change? Maybe the needs of your care receiver and your role in caregiving has lessened...maybe he or she has moved or even died. Or, perhaps he or she has returned to good health or has improved so much that the need for your assistance decreases. When this happens, a vacant space is born.
Robert Byrne has said, "The purpose of life is a life of purpose."
So as your caregiving role changes, and you now have a vacant space - in your time, in your purpose and even in your heart - how will you fill it?
Caregiving is a two-way street. As we care for and give to another, we are also receiving something intangible in return. When we are no longer receiving from our care receiver, who or what will fill that gap?
What is different is that caregiving is not always a choice; life happens and we must step up to the plate to help family. However, there is a choice about how to fill the vacant space; a choice, when not carefully thought through, can have ramifications for the rest of life.
When caregiving and your role in it changes, it is a precious gift of time for you; a time to be what some people might call "selfish" however, it is really an opportunity to evaluate your life, your goals, what activities give you joy and are important to you that you may have missed doing because of your caregiving role and time limitations. You may even think about what you can do to better prepare for your future.
If you would like to discuss your options with a CYP team member or other trusted adult, feel free to call the CYP office (561.391.7401) to discuss this and any concerns you have as your life changes. We at CYP want to work together with you to help you make this your best school year ever!